Things Guys Look for in a Lady

As human beings we are all unique and we bring our distinctive perceptions, and conditioning, into every aspect of our life. So there can be no actual generalization on what guys look for in their girlfriend because it will differ from guy to guy. Some guys might just be looking to have some fun and prefer a casual relationship while some look for commitment and long term bonding.

Having said that, I think there are some basic elements that every guy looks for in a girlfriend. Here I list seven such elements that I think are quite important.

Based on experience and studies it can be identified that what most men look for in a girlfriend are the attributes below.

1.) Love

Guys do expect their girlfriend to be in love with them, there needs to exist an element of emotional attraction along with the physical intimacy. Without this emotional bonding the relationship becomes hollow in sometime.

Guys tend to share their emotions and inner feelings with their girlfriend. In truth they hardly share their emotional side with their male friends – so a girlfriend does become a very special person in his life.

2.) Company

Even if he has a lot of guy friends to hang out with, they cannot fulfil the part a girl can play in his life. A guy's need for emotional intimacy and closeness is satisfied only in the company of his girlfriend.

Most guys feel at peace when they are in a stable relationship with their girlfriend because there's a deep need for feminine intimacy in a man's life. So a good company is one of the most basic attributes that a guy look for in a girlfriend.

3.) Inner and External Beauty

Physical attractiveness is important to both men as well as women and there is no doubt about it. But what also needs to be noted is that beauty in the absence of other feminine features like – tenderness, warmth, kindness and caring nature – can easily offset a man's interest in the long run.

A girl who has the strength of inner beauty and femininity would make for a much better girlfriend than a girl with spectacular looks who exhibits coldness.

4.) Intimacy

Physical closeness and sexual intimacy fulfils a deep need for bonding, and this is true for both men and women. Men do look for deep intimacy with their girlfriend.

But it's not just sexual intimacy that guys look; simple acts of physical intimacy like hugging, kissing or just cuddling can be just as satisfying.

5.) Playfulness

Guys usually have a carefree streak to them and they prefer girls who are laid back and playful to girls are constantly in a negative mood. Playfulness is something everyone is born with, but most people lose this part of their personality due to pressures of daily living.

There is a lot less friction and dissatisfaction in a relationship where the girl stays cheerful and laid back.

6.) Trust

This is another attribute that is common to both men and women. Guys need in their girlfriend a girl whom they can trust and a girl who trusts them back.

7.) Friendship

Only a girl can be a guy's best friend, for a good reason that most guys avoid sharing their emotional side with their male friends. Friendship is usually prior to an intimate relationship and guys want that from their girlfriend. Guys do look to their girlfriend to usurp the place of a best friend in their life.

In conclusion, a girlfriend is just what the name specifies – a girl who becomes a guy’s best friend. Emotional bonding is what holds the relationship together. If you are a girl who is hung up with the idea that sex is all that guys look for in their girlfriend – you’ve not been meeting the right guys.

Things To Do On Your Man's Birthday

Whisk Him Away to a Scenic Location

There is nothing more romantic than to spend an entire day together at a scenic hill station or bay area. You can reserve the hotel room and dining arrangements in advance. You can also ask the hotel staff to prepare a birthday cake that can be brought in by evening or during dinner. 

Do fun things through the day or just loll in the bed making love at the hotel. You can also spend some quality time sitting by the beach, or a hill, just absorbing the environment around you while sipping some nice wine or beer as his preference may be. 

Get Your Friends Together and Head for a Holiday Spot

Another cool boyfriend birthday idea is to head for a romantic spot. A few days prior to his birthday you can make reservations at a holiday club or some other fun spot near your place. Invite a few of your mutual friends to make the party livelier. You can plan on spending the entire day at the holiday spot playing games, eating, drinking and having fun in general. You can arrange with the staff at the club to arrange for a birthday dinner. 

You should check up with him once if he would like to enjoy his birthday with a crowd of friends or would he prefer just the two of you being together. Some guys don’t like the idea of birthday parties and it can leave them feeling stressed.

Take Him on an Ultimate Shopping Trip

Many guys like shopping just as much as girls do. Take him to a nice mall and spend a few hours buying him shirts, accessories or just some gear he likes. Hopefully your boyfriend will be considerate enough not to burn a hole through your pocket. He will feel pampered for sure. 

This way he can buy the stuff he really wants, so it makes for a practical birthday gift. Moreover it’s quite exciting to go on a shopping spree with your girlfriend taking the tab for it.

Be His Genie for the Day

This boyfriend birthday idea can be real fun and adventurous You can tell him that you are willing to do all his "biding" for the day. It’s like being at his "disposal" and do whatever he wants you to do (within your comfort levels of course!). You can ask him to take you for granted and treat you like his very own genie. This means you will cook anything he wants, pamper him, massage him or spoon feed him, basically do whatever he fancies for the fun of it. 

Just be ready for a few intimate ventures though because that’s the first thing that will pop into his mind. 

The best thing about intimate relationships is that they allow space for us to express ourselves openly and intimately. You can come up with many creative ideas for your boyfriend’s birthday while making sure he feels comfortable and pampered, after all it’s his day. More than the things you do on your boyfriend's birthday, it should be about using the occasion to express the full extent of your love and care for him. 

What did you do on your man's birthday? Please let me know in the comments below. 

Amazing Ship captain

Captains using the Corinth Canal are used to oiling up their vessels to squeeze through the tight passage. Just 21.3m wide, the 6.4km stretch links the gulfs of Corinth and Saronic, Greece.

10 things that make her a real lady

The spotlight always seems to be heading towards men, analising their behavior and suitability as a true  gentlemen. But what about the women? We all agree that there are certain Do’s and Don’t’s that distinguish  a girl from a real lady. Let’s have a closer look at some of these characteristics:  A real lady always dresses to impress but never too obtrusive. She always dresses for the moment and never  fails to look fantastic, no matter if she is relaxing on the sofa watching her favorite TV show, out with her girls  dancing or for dinner with her boyfriend. The same applies to her make up: Never too little, never too much and  always appropriate.  She never reveals too much. This applies to her dresses as well as to what she says. A real lady never talks  about embarrassing or shocking things and she never shows too much skin. If she is not sure about what to say,  she is either quiet and smiles gently, or she asks appropriate questions that show she is interested.  A real lady never looks bored. Even if she is. Looking bored and showing obvious disinterest is not only rude,  it is also extremely childish. A lady is a grown-up woman who does not need to fight with the weapons of a  little girl. She would never use her charm or sexappeal to get what she wants, only if it’s adequate.  True ladies love themselves. They are pleased with what they have and achieved and everything they did not  achieve so far is an objective they fight for.  A real lady would never embarrass her man. That includes everything from telling things about him behind his  back to being totally drunk in front of his colleagues or friends. A lady treats everyone she loves and herself with  the appropriate respect.  Ladies are self-confident. They stand up for what they are and believe and they would never betray a person they  love.  Real ladies care for their reputation and hate gossiping. They always life according to the motto: Act as if the  one you are talking about was present, and as if you had to look your counterpart into the eyes until the end of  time.  Real ladies love animals and children. That shows that they have a truly kind and big heart and that they  will make a perfect and caring mother. The difference between real love and pretended love shows when no  one is looking.  A real lady would always be ambitious and work hard for her own career instead of waiting for a man to pay  her bills. A true lady knows that the only person she can rely on 100 percent is herself. That means true ladies  are independent, strong and diligent. They would never lay on their sofa spending lazy days and wait to pick up  the fruits someone else planted.  Once a real lady found her one true love that is good to her as she deserved, she will marry him and never leave  him.